Squirting - September 25, 2022

SKILLS 101: Making a girl squirt

What is squirting?

Squirting is female ejaculation and is not urine! Studies found a Skene's gland, near the G-spot, which can release fluid containing prostate plasma. It is like an orgasm in that it is a form of release that will reduce stress levels and boost endorphins.

Can all women squirt?

Biologically, every woman have the physical attributes and body parts necessary to squirt, but it is difficult for a lot of women and only a few women squirt during penetrative sex. It would take time and practice and a lot of reassurances and understanding from their partner. Even when a woman has squirted before, they can still find it difficult or time-consuming and sometimes it just won't happen. Encourage her to do kegel exercises to strengthen the vaginal muscles.

Random tips and facts

It is possible for a woman to squirt without even reaching orgasm.
Make sure you keep her well hydrated!
For a prolonged squirting experience, edge her - so bring her as close to squirting as possible then back off the stimulation. By the time she finally realises, it will be extra intense!

This 6-step guide will help you learn how to make a woman squirt effortlessly, whether you are playing in your bedroom or in the middle of an intense BDSM scene!

Step 1: Make preparations to set the mood

You need to prepare her body and mind if she is not a 'natural squirter'. You need to empty her mind and erase all worries and distractions, and only think about you and what pleasure is to come.

Tips:

Change the lighting to flickering candles and low-light lamps, soft and gentle is good
Create a soft and sensual playlist
Groom yourself - shave your prickly beard and trim your fingernails
Use aromatherapy (candles or incense) - lavender has been shown to induce relaxation while bringing females to heightened arousal
Get rid of distractions - clear physical clutter and get rid of electronic devices

Step 2: Find the right position for her

The position can make all the difference! This simple position will give you full access to her clitoris and g-spot while also keeping her comfortable and relaxed.

Have her lie on her back
With her legs bent at the knee or flat against the bed, have her spread her legs. If her knees are bent, she can just let her legs hang (like in a frog-type position) which will help stretch and relax the thigh muscles
Rest a pillow under her buttocks to tilt her pelvis slightly, making it easier for vaginal and clitoral stimulation during foreplay, stimulation and intercourse
You could also have her hand her head off the edge of the bed

Step 3: Physical stimulation! Time to start foreplay

Mental and physical preparations are essential if you want her to climax let alone squirt. Whisper sweet nothings or dirty talk that you know she loves. This starts to titillate and tease. You want to get her out of a logical frame of mind and for those in BDSM relationships, lead her into subspace.

This is because logic is the enemy of pleasure when it comes to female orgasms. She needs to be 'out of her mind' to be able to let go and release a powerful orgasm.

Give her a sensual rubdown or erotic massage. This helps her body to physically relax and start to clear her mind. You could perform a whole body, once-over massage moving from head to toe, then move back to the most erogenous zones and the areas where she showed the most reaction.

Find her ultra-sensitive erogenous zones to find the spots she loves. To help you find them, communicate and pay special attention to her physical cues. If she is unable to communicate it and you can't read her cues, work on your communication to break down those walls. Try to focus on these primary tension spots (marked in red). You need to massage regularly in order to remove tension!

Step 4: Use lots and lots of lube and start stimulation

There is never too much lube and it is really important to have a high-quality lubricant to make the sexual experience more enjoyable for both of you.

Tips:

Consider finding a new lube to find the best one to suit you (try something natural like grapeseed oil)
Apply it liberally to her clit, inside her vagina and to your fingers and palm
Stimulate her clitoris with your fingers and mouth (if you do that as part of your dynamic - if in a D/s relationship you might just use your fingers)
Slowly insert your middle finger into her vagina with your palm face up. Curl your fingertip and perform a 'come here now' motion with your finger on the front wall of her vagina
Slowly add another finger and experiment with other stimulation techniques to keep her interested and aroused. As she becomes more aroused, her vagina wall will swell and you will know she is ready for more stimulation
Move deeper inside her and find her g-spot (a spongy structure) about 5-8cm inside her vagina and take note of where it is
She may feel like she needs to urinate so reassure her that is a normal feeling and she shouldn't worry. Even if she does urinate, what is a bit of mess! Make sure she feels comfortable that even if that happened, it is not a big deal at all.

Step 5: Combine clitoral and vaginal stimulation

For a breath-taking, body-shaking, leg-quivering, moan-inducing orgasm, she will need equal amounts of attention given to her clitoris and vagina.

Tips:

Place pressure directly on her pubic bone using your non-dominant hand. This does two things - helps give you better leverage and keeps her stable if she squirms
With your middle and ring fingers grazing the g-spot, place your palm face up and let it rest on her clit (so you will need to kneel or stand facing towards her)
Apply firm yet gentle pressure to the clit while 'come hithering' gently to her g-spot
Move your hand up and down while still stroking the g-spot
Speed up your movements in a rhythmic manner so you don't lose control. Continue at the pace which provides the most stimulation and watch her cues for if you feel you are being too rough
As she gets closer to climax, you will notice more squirms and her breathing and sounds might change. Keep up the same levels of speed and pressure and soon you will have a dripping wet experience
Once she begins to orgasm, keep your palm firmly against her clitoris to maximise the intensity of feelings and pleasure without causing overstimulation (sometimes extra stimulation on the clitoris will cause them to try to squirm away from it)

Step 6: Focus more on the experience than the goal

The goal of this should not be to make your partner climax and to squirt. It should be her general pleasure and the overall experience, and if she happens to climax, that is great! If she happens to squirt as well, then that's exciting for you!

Arousal is different for men than women and the arousal cycle can go up and down from so close to climaxing to not then back again. Take time, have patience and tweak and modify your techniques as you go along.

Extra tip - sex toys!

If you want to bring in some extra enhancement or stimulation. You could try a vibrating cock ring to hold against her clit or even try some anal stimulation!

Best positions for squirting

You may find your partner only squirts with fingering, but you may also be able to bring her to climax while you are penetrating her and combining that with your hand or a toy for clitoral stimulation.

Positions best for this are:

Doggy style - she kneels on her hands and knees while you enter her from behind. You can use her hips for leverage. It offers deep penetration and gives you complete control over depth, speed and positioning. If she pushes her pelvic floor muscles outwards and lowers her vaginal walls, she may be more likely to squirt. You can reach around and manually stimulate her clit or she can
Reverse cowgirl - lie on your back and have your partner straddle your hips while facing your feet - this gives her full control and she can lean back or forward to change the angle of ,your shaft thrusting into her. She can also reach down to touch herself. It is less intimate though as it is non-face-to-face.
The push up - have her lie on her back and raise her legs. You get between her legs in a standard push-up position. Place a pillow or cushion under her hips to hit her g-spot more easily. Advantages are that you can reach down and stimulate her clitoris and there is eye contact and skin-on-skin contact.

Squirting during cunninglingus

Going down on a woman and using your tongue on and in her can be an effective technique for getting her to orgasm.

You will need to use your fingers as well as your tongue because the tongue can't apply enough pressure initially to make her climax.

Get comfortable and build arousal with your tongue to stimulate her clitoris.

G-spot vacuum method - wrap your mouth around her vagina making it as air-tight as possible but keep your two fingers deep inside her. Press your fingers softly into her g-spot and then flick away from it. The vacuum combined with the flicking teases and engorges her g-spot causing it to swell and possibly eventually climax and squirt.